Divorce is like death. A marriage died. It’s an entity in and of itself. There’s a grieving process involved that not everyone understands. If a person died, people don’t usually firmly tell the grieving person to just get over it. Or move on. Act like nothing happened. Jump into discussions of facts and figures and spreadsheets. While those things are necessary, so is the grieving. Be kind. Realize that while outsiders are looking at numbers and planning out how the person can move forward, sometimes that person is trapped in a place with only memories of the life spent in the marriage. The good and happy times. There are often vast differences between men and women too, in just how differently the two sexes process things.